Hi Everyone! Lilly here. I am sick with a horrible cold, so the awesome Erin Moore is here today for me, filling in and talking about Alpha Males in romance and why we sometimes let them get away with things we wouldn’t in the real world.
Why are men in romance allowed to be dogs?
Why do we like (and write!) our heroines as innocent and virginal, and our heroes as proficient and experienced in the bedroom?
Umm, biology. Ethnobiologists are currently explaining to all of us what romance writers have always known: women prefer the alpha male. Anthropologist Napoleon Chagnon’s studies of the Yanomamo in South America started us down this path, confirming that, indeed, the more violent (i.e. alpha-dominant) males do in fact have more partners. Translation: more sex for the alphas!
It’s a biological imperative for us to lust after the biggest and strongest male in the room. If he happens to be a cad and have slept with all of the other women there, well, hmm. We still want him. And I’m not going to muddle into the debate about 50 Shades here, but what 50 Shades’ amazing sales seem to prove is that yes, we women like the fantasy of a man telling us what to do. In and out of the bedroom.
But we were raised as feminists, right? We can do it all as well as a man, and sometimes even better! So how do we reconcile our belief system with our biological need to fall in love with these men – men who we would probably advise our best friends not to date? And how do we, as writers, walk that fine line between being true to ourselves and writing men that we and our readers will lust after? I don’t know if there is a definitive answer to either of those questions. But I do know what I use as my guides.
Here are my own “rules” (thank-you Christian Grey) – hope they’re helpful to others!
- Knowing my boundaries – I don’t want to write something that seems demeaning to me, even if it will be better for sales.
- Feeling empathy for my alpha – he’s got a tortured past, a quirk, something that makes him human and not just a violent tribesman!
- Mutual respect – my heroines can’t just be simpering, sit-back types. While they may like him to take control in the bedroom, they can still have powerful interactions with their lover.
Erin Moore – Kissed By Moonlight
Erin has been writing her entire life, but only recently found her voice in the paranormal romance world.
She’s an avowed chocoholic, loves travel and good tea, and finds her inner peace by meditating and writing.
Kissed by Moonlight
Morgane has problems with men. Being a werewolf, and wary of humans, it’s inevitable. But when she meets the intense and enigmatic Aelric, she falls hard. She’s never experienced feelings like this before: desperate for his touch, crazy for the feeling of his skin on hers, and ready to surrender to him heart and soul.
Aelric has never had a problem with women; he’s a master of seduction. So when his alpha orders him to seduce Morgane for information about her clan, he accepts. He’s entranced by her supple curves and soft lips, but for once, he wants more than just her body. He wants her for his mate. But he can’t reveal his true identity, or his intentions. For he’s part of a rival clan of werewolves intent on the domination of Morgane’s pack. And dark forces are gathering that might destroy their fiery relationship…